Not Making Excuses vs Accepting Limitations

This week I’ve had to say “no” to a lot of opportunities I would’ve liked to say “yes” to.

I’ve found myself feeling a sense of guilt both because I feel like I’m letting people down and I’m not able to do as much in a week as others around me seem to do.

Our work culture tells us not be a person who makes excuses but accepting the limitations of life’s seasons is healthy. This is what my seasons of life life is right now:

  • My wife is at work or on call 84 hours per week.
  • I have a two-year old and a baby on the way.
  • My nearest family member lives two states away.

Instead of feeling guilty, I’m trying to focus on this:

  • I am a quality developer and demand for my services is higher than their supply. This is a good thing and a testament to the quality of work I do.
  • I get to spend a lot of quality time with my son every week and experience his joy as he discovers more and more about his world.
  • I am supporting someone I love as they launch a new phase of their career.

My parents are in town this weekend so we’ve got a weekend of Fort Wayne planned โ€” the zoo, the farmer’s market and a Tincaps game with fireworks!

Made my 2,000th check in on Foursquare / Swarm this weekend. I don’t use the social aspect much, I just love having a log of all the amazing places I’ve been over the last 8 years.

Weโ€™re halfway through the new season of Stranger Things and loving it! I have no idea how theyโ€™re going to resolve all of this in the next 4 episodes. ๐Ÿ“บ

Road tripping with the dog to North Carolina. Stopped in Ohio for a short but intense hike in Scioto Trail State Forest. ๐Ÿถ ๐Ÿ—บ

Dog on hiking trail

Having a kid has definitely increased my post-4pm coffee consumption at the office. No more coming home from work and just crashing!

It sadly looks like it’s going to be a short playoff run for the Pens this year. Isles have completely outplayed us in every part of the game this series. ๐Ÿ’

Traveling to southern Oregon / northern California this week for a family wedding. Planning on driving up to Cascade-Siskiyou National Monument on our free day Thursday. Anyone been and have any travel tips? ๐Ÿ—บ

Making an extra cup of coffee this morning after staying up late last night shooing a bat out of our bedroom!